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Monday, October 15, 2012

2 Years of NIP, 0 Negative Comments

Josias is almost 2 and he continues to love his milky. Of late, he's taken to creating chants like: Milky! Milky! Yummy! Yummy! Or sometimes, it's simply a huge grin along with shouts of: Boobies! Boobies!
Josias and I have NIPed a lot, in almost every venue conceivable, including work meetings with (male and female) colleagues and during work sessions that I was facilitating. When I was a new mama, I felt a little nervous about breastfeeding in front of my 92 year old grandfather. Not only did Grandpa not bat an eye, he told me I was doing a good job!

I have never, not one time, received a negative comment. I haven't even noticed anyone looking at me askance. In fact, on a cross-county flight, I once received congratulations from the man sitting next to me for breasting feeding my son for so long.

There may have been those who thought I should go elsewhere, but no one said so. I read all these stories about mamas who are told to cover up, leave or make baby wait, and I get incensed. I want to support them and all the mamas and babies out there. I want to do something about it.

So, here's what I'm doing today: sharing some good news. All the NIPing, all the blogging, all the Nurse-Ins, etc. have made the world a better place. Josias and I are NIPers extraordinaires and the world has embraced us!

Do you feel your Nursing in Public has been supported, even celebrated? Please share your successes!

Photo credit: Vanessa Pike-Russell

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

You're STILL Pumping?

Breastfeeding is very important to me.  My son and I had a very difficult time initially. Contrary to all my hopes and dreams, for the first month of his life we had to supplement with formula.  It was uphill all the way, but after about six weeks we attained exclusive breastfeeding.

The fight that required turned us both into breastfeeding fanatics.  Yet, there were still days when breastfeeding left me worn out, stressed out and frustrated.  As my maternity leave came to an end, I actually began to look forward to pumping as a way to get my son what he needed without requiring me to breastfeed all day every day.  Oh, the ignorance of the uninitiated!

I went back to work when Josias was 3 months old.  I had the most optimal environment for successful pumping imaginable: a supportive boss, a private office, a flexible schedule and an appropriate place to store breastmilk.  But before I had to rely on pumping, I hadn’t accounted for the fact that Mother Nature never intended a machine to suck breastmilk from my boobs.  And, as with almost everything under the sun, Mother Nature knows best.  The blasted machine just couldn’t get milk out the way my baby did.  And, it hurt!

Each day was touch and go in terms of whether I would have enough milk for Josias.  Somehow, we always squeaked by, but the whole process had me in a constant state of worry. So, as Josias’ first birthday approached, I was overjoyed that I had almost reached my goal of pumping for his first year and I would soon be retiring the pump.

Yet, when the day arrived, I just didn’t feel like it was time to stop.  Each day when I was washing up my pumping paraphernalia in the office kitchen, people would comment, “You’re still pumping?” or, “You must be a glutton for punishment!” or, simply, “Why?”

Why?  I don’t know if I can say exactly.  Josias was a happy and healthy one year old who ate a large quantity and variety of solids. We breastfed frequently when we were home together as well as throughout the night. And, in case I didn’t make my sentiments clear, I did not enjoy pumping.  So everything seemed to be in line to stop.

The only reason I come up with for not stopping at a year, is that I just wasn’t ready to take away all the benefits he received from hitting the nutritional jackpot of breastfeeding throughout the day. And, Josias loved his milky.  I didn’t feel it was time to stop, and I didn’t feel like Josias felt it was time to stop.

When Josias was seventeen months old my discomfort started to outweigh what I saw as the benefits of pumping.  So, that is when I stopped.

Each mama and nursling have to decide when this day I arrives for them.  No matter what anyone else says, I think it is different for each nursing pair and you have to go with what feels right.

If you made it to a few months of pumping? Hooray for you!  You gave your baby innumerable and irreplaceable benefits.  If you decide to keep pumping up to or even past two years?  Hooray for you!  You are doing what you know is best for you and your baby!

When did you stop pumping and why?